By Fraser McGurk, Peer Research Ambassador
What do you do when it’s time to move on?
The journey through the world of research is as unpredictable as it is exciting. There is never one clear cut way to find your passion through research, and often this requires a bit of trial and error. On some occasions, someone’s first research mentor fits their every need, and that is great! However, that’s not the case for everyone, and sometimes it’s better to expand your horizons. There are a variety of reasons someone may want to diverge from their original research mentor. Whether it’s for convenience, disagreements, or just the passion to pursue something new, it’s OK to feel like you fit better somewhere else. But leaving your lab or mentor can be a daunting task. What if they react poorly? What if I lose a connection? Am I really making the right decision?
It is completely understandable for these thoughts to be rushing through your head, this is a big decision, and these conversations are never easy to have. But there are a few things that are crucial to know about breaking up with your mentor:
1) Do not feel guilty for leaving
When deciding to leave a lab, it can be easy to put it on yourself. Imposter syndrome is common for early-career researchers. Was I not smart enough for the lab? Am I just not made for research? What if I hurt their research by leaving? It’s normal to have second thoughts when you decide to leave. However, you should not feel guilty about your exit. You have every right to explore all the wonderful areas of research on campus, and you are not confined to one single research group for the entirety of your career. If a research group makes you feel guilty about exploring other options on campus, that is a glaring indicator of a toxic workplace that does not treat its students with respect. Continue reading